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published: true
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title: "You Don't Need a Mentor"
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image: eating-out
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permalink: /weekly-review-13/
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description: "Accountability is the real underlying principle we need"
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image-attrib: >-
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Ayo Ayco. Since the pandemic, "eating out" meant we buy food somewhere and eat in the car
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category: personal
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Wouldn't it be great if we all have someone who pushes us into achieving our full potential? I can't count how many friends I've heard they need a mentor.
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But lately I feel like this concept has been blown out... partly by those who make a living out of it, and now most of us are left looking for person/s who will finally help us achieve our goals.<!--more-->
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Many are now left paralyzed.
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For sure, successful people may have some form of mentor behind them.
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But when I look at this purely in a practical sense, if all of us wait for a mentor, many will be left out.
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There's just not that many good role-models or successful people or experts who will have the time or interest to attend to us!
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Must we let this put our own growth to a halt?
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The truth is, when we think about it, the mentor concept sounds good because it seems to release us from responsibility.
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But those who do have mentors and have a good working relationship with them, will have found this out: they are still the sole responsible person for their growth.
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The benefit they get from having a mentor is that they have someone who will hold them accountable for their decisions and actions.
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If this is the case, then can't we just scrap this mentor thing and go straight to the point?
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We need accountability.
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If we admit that this is what we need, it will practically be more achievable than waiting for that mentor.
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First, we own the responsibility. We are accountable to ourselves. No other person is to blame.
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Then, we can find others. May not be as crucial as the first, but we will benefit in finding other people who also owns their responsibility for their growth.
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There's a quote attributed to one Jim Rohn I keep remembering:
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> You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
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If so then two things happen: first, inevitably your pursuit of growth and taking responsibility will benefit those around you.
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Then connecting to like-minded others will further nurture your growth.
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With this, we begin to have a cycle of Accountability... and in a way we become a mentor to ourselves and to others.
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Isn't this what we really want?
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What is one thing that keeps you from taking full responsibility for your growth?
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